“Then [Jesus] spoke a parable to them that men always ought to pray and not lose heart.”
Today I want to write all of you and share something very personal in the hopes that our experiences can help anyone else who may be going through a heartbreaking experience.
During the last couple of months my husband and I lost two babies due to two back-to-back miscarriages. This brings us to three miscarriages in the last two years. The sadness has been profound and nothing like we’ve ever experienced before. But in the midst of this sadness is a strong sense of peace and even joy.
If you’re going through heartbreak I want to uplift you by reminding you that we have a powerful God! We don’t always know why God didn’t intervene or answer our prayers the way we think is best for us. As one friend said, “God is God and we are not.” When we surrender our grief to the Lord, He will gently hold our broken heart in His healing hands. These aren’t just empty words but verifiable truth. My husband and I have been in constant prayer for each other and with each other, asking God to bring us peace that “surpasses all understanding” (Phil. 4:7). You know, I’ve read that verse so many times before, but it’s taken these loses to really understand and apply it to our lives.
It’s worth taking a look at the whole verse in Philippians:
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”
Do we still cry and have our sad moments? Yes, of course. But we don’t let despair sit in and dwell in our lives. I think if we don’t surrender our sadness or concerns to the Lord, the devil will use that opportunity to get a foothold in our lives and distract us from our service to the Lord.
The number one thing that has helped us in our grief is prayer. As our verse above says, we always ought to pray and not lose heart. So I would encourage you to pray to God through our one mediator Jesus Christ (1st Timothy 2:5). Ask Him to bring peace in the midst of your troubles and to fiercely guard your minds and hearts so that you don’t fall away from the Lord.
Just as importantly, we have been uplifted and encouraged by our church family. I can’t begin to tell you how much better we feel knowing they are praying for us and are there for us sharing in our burden. If you are looking for comfort seek out other believers who have a strong relationship with the Lord. Go to church. Sing praises. Study the Word at church. I can guarantee you will start to feel God’s all encompassing peace and joy.
If you don’t know Jesus as your personal Savior, reach out to us. Jesus tells us that life’s storms will rage against us at some point in our lives, but only those who have a firm foundation will stand; that immovable foundation is Jesus Christ. (Luke 6:46-49)
Please keep Rene and I in prayer as we mourn the loss of our babies. We know we will see them one day and that knowledge brings us comfort.
If you need us to pray for you send us a message and we’ll pray for you.
God Bless you.